In a love marriage whilst the two people know each other for a period of time before they get married there is a certain comfort level which comes from 'being in love' and knowing each other. However many a times after marriage the expectations become very different from each other and in some cases it works very well and in others both people feel short changed. They start feeling that things are not the way they were before they got married. Over a period of time they feel that the other has changed and is not the same person anymore. That is not true. Indian marriages are not just marriages of two individuals but also of two families and people have to deal with the changes maturely.
Arranged marriage does not mean getting married to an absolute stranger, whether the introduction is via family/ friends or thru a matchmaking service. It just means the initial introduction is arranged , and slowly the couple grow to love each other with time . People get to know each other, understand each other and with every passing year the love and care grows. The expectations are not sky high which helps and people are more willing to take a few extra steps to find the right balance in their marriage. Very often the tolerance is more and the inflexibility is less and both give more of each other to discover each other.
In other case of love or arranged shaadi can be beautiful if one works on it, after all both people are gaining not just each other but also a new set of family. Double the love!
